How Much Sickness, Stress And Disease Is Caused By Unfulfilled Promises To One Self?

I wonder how much stress, sickness and disease is caused by compromising the promises we make to our self for the sake of fulfilling our obligations. How many people are left feeling resentful because they have put their dreams on hold until? Many of us discipline our self to do the things that must be done.

Many of us discipline our self to do the things that must be done. I was no exception. I spent what seemed like a life time trying to get off the merry-go-round of ‘shoulding’ on myself – you know what I mean – doing things that I thought I had to do or I should do.

Disciplining one self to a life of fulfilment is often like returning to that child-like state of mind, to that ‘make-belief’ place, where we made-believe we were already that which we wanted to be. Kids do this very well. Then we grow up and we leave the best part of us behind. As a Kidult (kid and an adult), the journey means being aware of all the excuses and so-called logical reasons why we can’t do it, why we keep putting things off until ‘one day.’

For some, that day never comes. Instead, their dreams remain on the ‘to do’ list, forever

I have been fortunate enough to make lots of money, holiday and own wonderful possessions. I have also been unfortunate enough to lose it all, including my health and I had to start again. It was when I started over with what seemed like nothing that I found another way. It meant turning my way of thinking upside down. As I started to undo my conditioning, I began to discipline myself to do the things I loved doing.

Was it easy? No of course not. Having spent a life-time ‘shoulding’ on myself and doing what I was conditioned to do, stepping out of the box and going against the mass seemed like an impossible mission. And it was scary.

It meant having to overcome many old- fashion and out-dated beliefs that had me convinced that I was mad. I had to let go of the idea that I couldn’t have everything, or that it had to be ‘this or that.’ Somehow I had to convince myself that I really could have love and happiness, and money. I had to dig deep to really believe that there was a way to enjoy my work and get well-paid for it. And I could let go of having to label myself and I feel at home being who I am.

It also meant putting aside any ideas of obligations and become what some would consider selfish. After all Olympic athletes, famous artists, writers, dancers, singers and many more people have broken free of their conditioning and have disciplined themselves to follow a dream. I too had big dreams that I came to think would remain just that – a dream, particularly after losing what I thought was everything.

Finally, I overcame the fear of what people would think. I accepted that I was no longer like others I knew. I was different, and not necessarily wrong. I let go of the ‘What if it went wrong or it didn’t work and I began to ask myself What if it did work? Many times I wanted to quit and go back to being normal again. Finally the time came when I accepted that although my life may not have looked right through the eyes of the average person, it felt right for me. I was no longer ‘normal’ – I had crossed that line and there was no going back.

I made a new decision to make my purpose to live a joyful life and I became open to finding out what that might be and what it might look like. I was in for a very pleasant surprise. Along the way I found much joy and appreciation doing some simple things which cost me very little and at times nothing. I found so much pleasure in the miracle of nature, and taking time to smell the roses, as they say. It didn’t always mean that I didn’t have to do some things I really didn’t want to do; it simply meant I had a new reason to do it and I could do it with a different attitude. In time I found the joy in doing the most mundane things.

Being committed and disciplined meant that I had to go beyond logic and re- connect my head with my heart so I could get in touch with my feelings. Through my feelings I attuned to that natural child-like intuition and I let that be my guide.

Through trial and error and much pain, I finally surrendered to doing what I love and finding a way to get paid well loving what I do. With courage, and one little step at a time, I made my way through my doubts and dis-beliefs. I dealt with other doubting Thomas’s and non-believers until I recovered that natural self-belief I came to know as faith. I went through the frustrations and set-backs and often it was during the times when it looked and felt like I was staring failure in the face that the break-through came. I responded to that deep-seated desire to better connect with the world, and I am. Instead of giving up I kept giving in to my dream of being who I really am until one day, one moment the tables turned and I wondered why I ever waited so long.

Oh what a decision that was; but it was worth it.

Tomato Pest And Disease Problems – Preventing, Diagnosing And Treating

Tomatoes are notoriously picky plants. Tomatoes are in the potato family, which makes them susceptible to tens, if not hundreds of pest and disease problems; however, that should not stop any tomato loving gardener from harvesting buckets of healthy tomatoes. The key is to learn how to prevent, diagnose and treat tomato problems.

Tomato Disease Prevention

Disease prevention in tomato plants starts with healthy growing practices. Preparing the soil, watering properly, and feeding appropriately are all keys to tomato disease prevention. Tomatoes like a well draining soil filled with lots of organic matter. Tomato roots penetrate deeply into the soil, helping to stabilize plants and take up water. With well-prepared soil, watering deeply and infrequently-every 4-6 days, will allow the tomato plant to have enough water, without putting the plant at risk of problems of overly “wet feet.” Always water in the morning, so plant leaves have time to dry during the day. Leaves are a perfect spot for disease incubation, and water ripens those conditions even more. Prune your plants to provide air flow through the leaves and branches, which will also aid drying time. Ensure that your tomato plants receive proper nutrition by conducting a soil test, and treating the soil according to the results. All of these practices will give your plants a good start fighting off diseases and pests.

Diagnosing Tomato Pests and Diseases

If all of your well-intentioned cultivation practices have not stopped your plants from succumbing to a problem, then you must diagnose the problem. Tomatoes can suffer from pest problems, nutrition problems, viral, bacterial and fungal problems.

Pest damage to tomato plants causes visible physical changes. Cutworms actually cut off the plant from its root system, causing the plant to wilt and die. Aphid damage results in sticky residue on the plant. Aside from the damage they inflict, you can often see the pest itself on the plant. Caterpillars bury into fruit and eat it, causing fruit to rot. Whiteflies and spider mites are visible on the leaves. Diagnosing pest problems is easier than other problems because most pests can be observed on the plant.

Nutrition problems in tomato plants manifest in several areas of the plant. Tomatoes absorb a wide variety of nutrients, minerals and trace elements from garden soil. Deficiencies in each nutrient result in specific symptoms in the plant. Excess nitrogen causes deep green, lush, leafy plants with little fruit. Nitrogen deficiency causes yellowing of lower leaves. Calcium deficiency causes blossom end rot, a common problem on tomato fruit characterized by yellow, leathery spots that spread into black, rotting patches on the blossom end of the fruit. (The end away from the stem.) Nutrition problems can be seasonal, or soil related. A soil test helps determine what nutrients are lacking in the soil. If all nutrients are in the soil, factors such as overly wet or cold soil can make it more difficult for plants to absorb nutrients.

Viruses, bacteria and fungus all cause tomato diseases and problems. Wilts, damping off, leaf spots, mildew, fruit rot, cankers, and leaf mosaic problems are all common tomato problems caused by a cocktail of tiny organisms. Each problem shows in the tomato in different ways. Leaf mosaic viruses show up in leaves, causing mosaic-like patterns. Cankers are growths on stems, leaves or fruit. Root rot often shows up in the leaves of the plant, as they shrivel and die from not having enough water. For a comprehensive, pictorial guide on diagnosing tomato plant pests and diseases, consult How to Grow Tasty Juicy Tomatoes (available from

Treating Tomato Pest and Disease Problems

The phrase: an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure definitely applies to tomato growing. As earlier related, properly caring for tomato plants and their soil prevents many problems. However, should your plants fall prey to a problem, there are many ways to treat.

First, correctly diagnose the problem. Once diagnosis is certain, follow procedures related to the particular problem. Many plant problems can be alleviated by changing gardening techniques. Plants that are stressed are more susceptible to pest and disease problems. Examine watering, mulching, and feeding practices. If those techniques are in balance, many pest and disease problems will go away. Nutrition deficiencies may be corrected by adding correct nutrients to the soil in easily accessible forms. Some nutrients are best delivered as leaf or soil drenches, while others work well in time-release granular applications. Pest problems can be corrected with beneficial insects, changes in gardening techniques, and insecticides-both synthetic and organic. Viral, bacterial and fungal problems can also be treated with a combination of gardening techniques and soil and plant drenches and sprays. Safety is an important consideration when applying any sort of pesticide. Read the label carefully and follow all directions. More is not better when pesticides are concerned.

While all of this information can seem daunting, tomato growing is a rewarding hobby. Keep a good reference on hand, and whenever your plants are under the weather, open the book and identify the problem. How to Grow Juicy Tasty Tomatoes contains over 260 colored photos of diseases, pests and common nutrition deficiencies and is a must-have for any top-notch tomato grower!